"The Tea" // Sunday Journal Entry: Chit-Chat: I'm Thankful For… + Relationship Lessons [part three..finale]
I know this post is a bit later in the day than usual but I can’t apologize for taking a quick weekend trip. In my opinion weekend trips are sometimes the perfect R & R. While the trip wasn’t far + it was just far enough to hang out + take in some culture + and have a few laughs with a good friend [TY-AK for the fun weekend] + but I digress.
Once a year during Thanksgiving lots of people profess what they are thankful for. However I’m not just thankful around the holiday + I’m thankful all year long. I thank [Him] for my many blessings + because as I look around at my peers and people in general I know that I am blessed even though I complain a helluva-lot about things. Sometimes I have to eat my words and begin with “I know I should be thankful…” because I genuinely am. Although I’m tired and I want to take Monday to do nothing…I have to go to work + but I am thankful for my job because some people don’t have one [and this is not to look down on or shame those people] + I’m thankful for the job that gives me a pension + health insurance + holidays + annual leave + and sick pay. I’m thankful that I get a transportation reimbursement for even coming to work. So when things get thick + and I’m ready to tell someone to kiss my [you know what]…I have to stop…relax + relate + release and be damn thankful for what I have.
I’m thankful for my family + because although you can’t choose them and they drive you crazy …we are family for life + and there is no one that can take the place of that. I’m thankful for my daughter who knows me better than anyone else on this planet + she is the reason that I get up everyday + and keep hustlin’ + because I want to be the person that she can brag about. I’m thankful for my friends that hold me down + and keep me grounded + I’m thankful for my companion + [hell] I’m even thankful for the crazy people that I see everyday + because they let me further know that life is not as bad as I think it is. I’m thankful for my little condo + because it’s all the home that I need right now…and last but not least I’m thankful for my mind + and for the clearness to see life as it is + and not letting it wear me down but embracing all that it has to offer.
So… yes the time has come to finish up this list. This is the last of the relationship lessons that someone shared with me…. and like last time….I’ve modified this list because that thing called a relationship doesn’t just apply to men and women + it crosses all paths and genders.
Relationship Lessons [part three + finale]
Just because he or she says they loves you + doesn’t mean that he or she won’t hurt you and it doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with them.
Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.
Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someoneunavailable-available + someone ungiving-giving, + and someoneunloving-loving.
- If you don’t love self…you can’t love anyone else.
- You cannot mend someone else’s broken heart.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it + but it takes two to make it work.
Don’t fall for the “I’m not the loving type”…when a man or woman loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he or she wouldn’t do for you.
- When its time to let go + let go; and lastly….
- Never make someone a priority in your life when they have only made you an option in theirs.
And yes that ends this list + I hope it was helpful to some and or a reminder to others.
[and of course… yes…here it is again that… “Disclaimer” because it’s necessary]
Just to be clear + I’m no expert + I don’t profess to be + I only know what I’ve learned on this earth for half a century + and when I have something that’s worth sharing + I’ll always pass it along … with that I’ll close this Tea Session.
I’ll be back next Sunday with more to spill. Thanks so much for visiting my blog today + and don’t forget to like + subscribe + or follow .
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